بِسْــــــــــــــــــمِ ﷲِالرَّحْمَنِ اارَّحِيم
الحمد الله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله ﷺ و بعد
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته
- What is Salafi Marriage Foundation?
For the 1st time in Saudi Arabia, only by Tawfeeq and Mercy of الله سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى we have between us a very small effort or attempt to help our Muslim brothers and sisters around the world benefit from an authentic and nonprofit (free of cost) marriage foundation providing global support since 2012 being run by team of brothers and sisters who are Salafi (meaning understand Quran and Sunnah as per the understanding of Salaf us Saalih) and take their Aqeedah and Manhaj really seriously in everything they do, Our HO located in Jeddah but our team is spread across globally now الحَمْد لله
- Who runs it and why?
Disclaimer: Please bear in mind that this is our voluntary and individual attempt to help our Muslim brothers and sisters in Islaam due to the dire need of such an authentic marriage support system and since our Masheikh are their senior students are busy in works related to knowledge and da'wah and none from people of knowledge working in this area, we began our work and please understand that due to the sensitive nature of matrimony and trust and fitnah involved we request all brothers and sisters to support our cause rather than everyone making their own attempts in starting their own thing as purpose is to serve the community and not objectify ourselves. We do consult the senior students of knowledge in making sure that our work is 100% halaal and fitnah free. We dont claim to be from any specific group or jamaat in any part of the world neither are we biased to any one scholar as that goes against Manhaj of Salaf however we support the truth and dont fear or care about the blame of the blamers. You can ask about the founder from people of knowledge in Riyadh and Jeddah as he is not famous just for your satisfaction but please dont ask for a tazkiyah or testimonials like how many people we helped as we are not doing business here. Whatever we do for the sake of Allaah shall remain and everything else shall perish!
So trust as at your own individual responsibility and verification and founder lives here in KSA and you are most welcome to come and meet us and ask us anything whenever you come over for 'Umrah or Tourism and we are very friendly and considerate specially with new Muslims so we dont mind but fitnah makers, time wasters and pessimists should excuse us as we are already left with very imited time in our life.
We are working on making this platform as easy, cost and time effective as possible but we dont claim to be perfect so if you find any issues or have any positive feedback then do contact and share with us as Ad-deenun Naseehah but excuse and forgive us for our limitations or shortcomings.
- What is our scope and how do we function?
Our aim is to please Allaah and challenge Shaitaan as this is the last thing he wants that two sincere practicing Muslim slaves of Allaah come together for His sake and carry on with the mission of living and spreading true Islaam generation upon generation, All Praise be to Allaah!
Furthermore we want to reduce the high divorce rates in Muslims communities now which was negligible few years back and mainly Muslims being far away from knowledge and practice of Islaam is the prime reason of it. At the same time we wanted to fill the gap by helping struggling singles get married as well as the poor, the widowed the even help polygeny as it's a forgotten Sunnah. Not only that but we also wanted to build a global marriage support system, where married couples whether in early, middle or final (suffering) phases of their life could get much needed knowledgebase from authentic scholars. So we have a blog now and we share beneficial articles, free e-bk downloads etc marriage related resources. We highly recommend singles as well as married to read Chapter of Marriage in Sahih Al Bukhari and various books on Fiqh like that of Sheikh Saleh Al Fawzaan's works 'AlMulakhkhas Al Fiqhhiyyah'. It's comprehensive and covers all topics related to marriage from cradle to the grave. You will find lot of beneficial resources on our blogs and Youtube channel with all halaal material for married couples to benefit from so that they dont waste time searching content.
We also have a research and verification department with it's unique functions to benefit in marriage support system.
For e.g. Salafi psychological support from Professors in Clinical Psychology and therapy sessions, Marriage Counselling, real time fatwas support from real scholars on marriage related issues (alifta.com) etc.
- Major Problems faced in Marriages today:
- Not able to find a pious spouse in a halaal way (most online matrimony fall into haraam and highly commercialized),
- High divorce rates due to various issues like culture clashes,
- Phobia of marrying only in same tribe or within family and not putting trust in Allaah and His Qadr,
- High Mahr, extravagance, marrying only to Doctors and Engineers or not looking at this Aqeedah and carelessly marrying off daughter to a nonpracticing man or woman for sake of materialism,
- Making education a constraint or excuse to delay marriage or the color of skin of the girl for rejection inspite of being practicing,
- Personality mismatch, religious commitment issues, family politics and cultural tug of wards, inferiority complexes, superstitious beliefs, geographic and visa related issues, Revert sisters not having a Mahrum and not knowing what to do or whom to take help from etc.
We tackle all these issues in our marriage form by designing thought-provoking Questions so that families have transparencies and complete details inside out. We have separate Male and Female admin to take care of fitnah and guarding personal information.
We would like to have more real time feedback from singles and couples to broaden the scope of our research and provide better support to the Muslim Ummah by help of Allaah.
Our scopes covers all, Divorced, Widowed, Late unmarried sister's as well as brothers and those who are practically in need of Polygamy with serious proof by their character and good mannerisms or just wanting to revive the Sunnah.
Brothers and Sisters contact us from all parts of the world, All Praise be to Allaah!
However we can only help those who cooperate and register with us, we cant help anonymous due to security reasons.
- Is it free and what all how much value can we expect for our time?
We dont believe in charging money as we dont see this as a service rather an obligation upon one group amongst our Muslim Ummah. We dont think the marriage makers (aunties in Asia and MiddleEast are practicing and productive) except few upon whom is Allaah's mercy. Would any of you charge his blood brother or sister money to help them in anything? Indeed brothers and sisters in Islaam are more dearer to us. However we will require both parties to invest substantial amounts of hardwork (time and energy) in verification of deen and ikhlaaq as that is what it really takes to make marriages work in long term. This is the advise of our scholars. Its not a box of happiness and empty expectations rather when a couple marries then their marriage box is empty and after the contract them fulfil their obligations to fill it with belief, righteous actions, support of haqq and sabr along with muwaddah and rahmah, doing all sincerely for the sake Allaah!
The Life to come (Hereafter) should be given special consideration while choosing a pious spouse. For men nothing can more rewarding in this world than a pious Muslimah and for women its their ticket to enter Jannah by any gate they wish provided they obey, establish prayer, guard chastity etc...!
There are many misconceptions related to marriage widespread today amongst all Muslim communities. We can not only say this is general fact but we can back it up with proofs from our experience in this field with the Muslim community. For e.g. a lot of Muslims don't know the fact that they should do a course and learn Marriage rulings before getting married so that they can get away with major mistakes all couples do during and after the marriage. In-addition a Muslimah can't marry without her guardian's (father, brother etc) permission and there is lot of details in in the exception which most are unaware about. We cover lot of this in our SMF blogs and channels to clear all such misconceptions before getting married.
In-case you dont know who are Salafi's or what is Salafiyyah and would like to read and explore then I would recommend below authentic websites:
- I am a non-Muslim and wish to understand Islaam... http://www.spubs.com/sps/sp_nm.cfm
- I am a Muslim and wish to learn the basics... http://www.spubs.com/sps/sp_mm.cfm
- (Arabic Salafi web-site) miraath.net
(Urdu Salafi Audio) www.ashabulhadith.com
- (English Salafi Web-Sites) www.salaf.com l www.troid.ca l www.salafyink.com
- Q&A / Fatawaa www.alifta.com (Arabic/English/French/Urdu/and many more..)
- (Combating Extremism) www.islamagainstextremism.com l
- (English Salafi Audio) www.salafiradio.com ; www.salafiaudio.com
(Salafi Events) www.salafievents.com
- (Salafi Audio Fatawaa) www.miraathpublications.net
- Tawheedekhaalis.com (Authentic articles of scholars on latest issues Urdu/English.
- https://knowledgeofislamblog.wordpress.com/about/ (excellent resource *****)
Having said that, Muslims interested in marrriage should be mature enough to understand Islaam has set limitations and boundaries by which we should govern our lives as we will surely be questioned soon on day fast approaching. Indeed after praying on time, the thing Allaah loves the most is obeying parents in ma'roof (good) and then next comes Jihaad in cause of Allaah.
So as a respectful and obedient son/daughter you should consult them in an extremely respectful way and seek advise as one who doesnt respect our elders is not amongst us. Benefit from their experience and wisdom. Indeed it would hurt if you were a parent and your child would take most important step of his life without your consent. However if they are not practicing they still should be treated with utmost respect but marriage should not be delayed or made extravagant to please them, there is no obedience to the creation when there is disobedience to the Creator. Need to keep a balance in this and only those who have really benefitted from Quran and authentic Sunnah will be able, in shaa Allaah!
Ground rules included include no dating, time wasting individuals rather only serious brothers and sisters with realistic approach to marriage should join us and no dream girl and prince charming kind of people will be entertained.
Registration is free but one should not judge the authenticity or quality of our work by it rather we believe that brothers whom Allah has blessed them with should donate specially after they have benefitted so that we can continue to make this website better, add new amazing features and automize it further like finding a matching brother or sister automatically based on your registration form.
The only reason we kept it completely free is because marriage is already a great challenge (hard mission) in our times and there are brothers and sisters who dont use credit card as it's prohibited in Islaam or they are needy not miserly and they need help like divorcees, single mums, widows from accidents or wars etc or simply they believe that this work should be free as a matter of fact even I strongly believe it should be so.
The issue with common Muslim in this age is that they complain in each and everything but dont work hard to make things right!
Social media platforms are really dangerous and should only be used under strict Adult and Islaamic supervision and criteria is purely authentic deen, Alhamdulillaah!
Having said that be patient and dont fall for procrastination and loose hope in Mercy of Allah if you are not able to find your spouse in next 6 months or even years rather smile and earn ajaar by being patient and you are not going to get away without a test/trial*
(and persevere as Allah says 'Wastaeenu Bis Sabri Was Salaah' seek help (from Allah) by patience and Salaah.)
Generally successful marriages are those where man is financially stable, kind and caring, mature while women is younger and all-rounder in terms of managing house chores and children, sustaining her chastity and beauty, specially by not going out unnecessarily.
All you have to do is register and create an original profile of yours with all authentic info, signed by you, keeping Allah witness over yourself and with references of 3 from each place mentioned in the form, just follow the guidelines mentioned in the marriage form in home page then after filling it return back to us signed on the contact email's mentioned.
A couple of important Advices:
- To Brothers:
- To Guardians of Sisters:
Try to choose same geographic location.
See that proposer practices not only waajibaat but also Mustabahaat in deen like use of Miswaak.
Dont delay Nikaah once the brother has proposed and you have accepted.
Dont go for engagements, directly do Nikaah and let the new husband take her wife right after Waalimah, according to the Sunnah the father should drop his daughter to his son-in-laws house.
This is the timesof fitan (trials and tribulations) so be very careful whom you choose as your companion.
Send us an email stating why do you want to get married, a little background of yourself in less than 100 words and how seriously you practice religion and whom do you listen to these days as religion is main criteria in our marriage selection as it ideally should be.
Then we will send you a token number and Marriage form which you should fill, fearing Allah and with utmost sincerity and as part of process you have to fill it completely following all instructions within. Those that dont comply will be rejected and registration is mandatory.
Once registration is complete you will be added to our 'Salafi Marriage Foundation Support Grp' on Telegram for easy-followups.
Then we will do the matching (main criteria will be deen and ikhlaaq)and once we find a suitable match will inform you the profile of best match matching your requirements. We will recommend those whom we know personally (form heading will be in green color) and those whom we do not know will mention as unknown and so it will be in red color.
- Take time to investigate in best way possible. Bring all the things on the table which may cause conflict later on like relocation, polygamy, employment of spouse, keeping t.v. or internet in the house etc.
- Please note parents will be part of process and also all personal information of our clients (brothers and sisters) in Islam will be kept with full confidentiality. We will delete these profiles once you find your suitable match from a good family.
- Let the couple realize that once they commit and have children it will be very difficult to separate after marriage and they will be solely responsible for destroying future of their children.
- If it didnt work out then ups and downs are part of life and contact us back, we will analyze the cause and if it's valid we will forward you a better profile in shaa Allah.
- Dont ask for photos of each other rather meet face to face. No pics will be entertained for religious and security reasons in our forms rather face to face meeting highly encouraged amidst the Mahaarim (guardians permission) once preliminary verification and matching on deen (what matters) is done. However you can put a picture of your favourite book or food (non living pic in the form) etc.
Its our job to act as a bridge between a Salafi practicing brother and guardian of the practicing Salafi sister. However it's their individual obligation to check and assess the Aqeedah, Manhaj, Ikhlaaq and character as a whole of the individual before accepting him, no blind following entertained. Parents should Investigate and marry at your own risk and Salafi Marriage Foundation is no way liable or responsible if your marriage doesnt work out later for any reason or the person becomes NonSalafi after marriage for e.g.. We register people based on their forms and what is apparent and only Allaah knows the secrets of the hearts. However rest assured we only match and forward the best to our knowledge and ability but both parties should do their homework well and not rely blindly on us just as a precaution advise.
It's decree of Allah, whether it works or it doesn't, be practical, not emotional and accept Qadr of Allaah, good or bad. So even if marriage takes place and inspite of all the investigations if later marriage doesnt work out as it does happen sometimes and by Qadr of Allaah divorce takes place then accept it and move on with life, return back to us.
No one knows whats in the heart that is why highly encourage you travel with that person (proposer and guardian ofcrse), do business dealings with them etc, give both some real life responsibility check how they react as some of our Aslaaf used to say. The advise of Sheikh Uthaymeen on this is really beneficial.
The more you focus and take time with this the more it will reduce chances of divorce and never give up!
We are working on making the SMF experience better.
May Allaah guide all of us and make all of our affairs easy and reward us for all that we do sincerely to seek His Pleasure!
سبحانك اللهم وبحمدك أشهد أن لا إله إلا أنت أستغفرك وأتوب إليك
Wasssalaam O Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu